Friday, October 31, 2008

Smiling Enemies

Sorry if i have decieved you by this picture. Im not gonna talk about SushmithaSen or AishwaryaRai. Im gonna talk here about jealousy. Then why this picture?? Just to literally match my title! :-)) I know some of your faces are turning red .... but pls control yourself.
Before i could jump on the topic i would like to share a joke that i read in a book.
A huge family consisting of a husband/wife/children/Motherinlaw/Fatherinlaw went out for a shopping mall. After sometime they realised that they lost the mother-in-law in the crowd. Every body searched at each and every corner but couldnt find the mother-in-law. Suddenly the wife asks her husband an expensive neclace that she saw at a near by jewellery shop. The husband got mad at his wife for asking things at an in-appropriate situation. But the wife replied "Honey im doing this for 2 reasons". The husband asks what were they. THe wife replies : "
"Reason No#1 : I had been thinking to buy a necklace since long time.
Reason No# 2 : Every time I ask you to buy something for me, the mother-in-law, appears out of nowhere".
This proves the jealousy between them. Although it sounds funny, it should be analysed and get rectified , else it would lead into problems.
So, what is jealousy?When we think about this question, we could answer it in many ways.However each one of us have an answer to the question w.r.t how it has affected in our life. According to me Jealousy is comparison. We all have the basic nature to compare , but when the degree of concentration raises it becomes an absolute jealousy.Comparing lifestyles, wealth, property, personality, spouse, etc etc.... the list never ends.When jealousy arise, the chances are a lot many bad things could happen like a relationship or a friendship could get affected. Jealousy invades and leads every relationships into misery.
We all have been through experiences when we felt that someone close to us suddenly cooled off, and kept their distance from us after hearing of a positive development in our lives. And we might be wondering why and later would probably figure out but it might still be confusing. suggestions to handle such people :
1. Ignore

2.Return their bad behaviours with good

3. Never stoop to their level.

Many researches/surveys/articles have proved that jealousy is a negative feeling that would destroy the whole life.
Drop comparing and jealousy disappears, meanness disappears, phoniness disappears. But you can drop it only if you start growing your inner treasures; there is no other way.
Grow up, become a more and more authentic individual. Love yourself and respect yourself the way God has made you, and then immediately the doors of heaven open for you. They were always open, you had simply not looked at them.

Source Courtesy : Osho ,The book of wisdom chapter 27.

Image courtesy : Dr.PaulHauk Book's Cover.

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